What You Want is Possible.
Reclaim the love and connection you crave.
What Kind of Communicator Are You?
Take the free quiz to discover your unique communication style, how you show up in conflict, and how to improve communication with your partner.
I’m Colette Jane Fehr, a couples therapist, relationship expert, TEDx speaker, and Big 5 author.
I help people heal and transform their relationships from the inside out. My work goes beyond surface-level advice — it's about breaking old patterns, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating the kind of deep, meaningful connection you’ve always craved.
How to Speak Up and Be Heard
(It’s simpler than you think).
A free guide that will help you reclaim your power, communicate effectively, and reconnect with your partner — especially when it’s hard. (As seen on TEDx)
How to Bring Up a
Difficult Topic
If you’ve ever avoided a conversation because you didn’t want to start a fight—you’re not alone. Hard conversations can feel overwhelming, but my free guide will give you the confidence to speak up.
Reignite Your Connection with Your Partner
Feeling emotionally distant from your partner lately? Between work, kids, and the stress of everyday life, it’s easy for connection to take a back seat. This free guide will help.
Want to feel more in love with your life?
Want to feel more in love with your life?
I’ve spent years helping people find lasting joy in their lives and relationships. Now, I’m pulling back the curtain on how I do it in my own life — how I landed a book deal with a Big 5 publisher, secured a TEDx talk, and generated a wealth of experiences and opportunities that excite me. The Vim Life is my weekly manifesto on creating a life you love — from building meaningful relationships to achieving your biggest goals. Join me, and let’s make your life extraordinary.
How to Work Together
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Conflict to Connection Coaching Program
My signature 14-week coaching program helps you identify the root causes of disconnection, shift unhealthy patterns, and learn to communicate with clarity and compassion—so you can feel secure, supported, and seen in your relationship.
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In-Person Couples Intensives
Spend a full day at my office in Orlando, Florida and get the deep, focused support your relationship needs. These intensives are designed to help you break through stuck dynamics, reconnect emotionally, and leave with a practical path forward.
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The Mid-Life Masterclass
This group experience is for women ready to rewrite the rules. In this 12-week program, we’ll explore relationships, identity, and personal power—so you can stop over-functioning and start living a life that actually feels like yours. Learn how to set boundaries, use your voice, and live your best life.
Listen to Insights
from the Couch
A Podcast Exploring the Unique Challenges and Many Opportunities of Midlife
Insights from the Couch is your go-to podcast for smart, self-aware women in midlife navigating perimenopause and menopause, burnout, relationships shifts, identity changes, and the emotional uncertainty of “What now?”
Hosted by best friends and seasoned therapists Colette Fehr, LMFT, LMHC and Laura Bowman, LMHC this is where therapy meets real life — bold conversations, hard truths, and powerful tools to help you get unstuck and come alive.
Whether you're questioning your relationship, struggling with the empty nest, battling people-pleasing or perfectionism, or just feeling disconnected from yourself — this show is for you.
Discover My Blog Explicit
Whether you’re struggling with an avoidant partner, longing to feel valued, or healing from a breakup, this blog goes beyond surface-level advice and gives you the tools to shift your perspective, break old patterns, and build the kind of connection you’ve always craved.