What You Want is Possible.
Reclaim the love and connection you crave.
I’m Colette Jane Fehr, a couples therapist, TEDx speaker, and Big 5 author.
I help women heal and transform their relationships from the inside out. My work goes beyond surface-level advice — it's about breaking old patterns, rebuilding trust in yourself, and creating the kind of deep, meaningful connection you’ve always craved.
Want to feel more in love
with your life?
I’ve spent years helping people find lasting joy in their lives and relationships. Now, I’m pulling back the curtain on how I do it in my own life—how I landed a book deal with a Big 5 publisher, secured a TEDx talk, and built a platform of 20K followers in under a year. The Vim Life is my weekly manifesto on creating a life you love—from building meaningful relationships to achieving your biggest goals. Join me, and let’s make your life extraordinary.
What Kind of Communicator Are You?
Take the free quiz to discover your unique communication style, how you show up in conflict, and how to improve communication with your partner.
How to Work Together
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Conflict to Connection Coaching Program
My signature 14-week coaching program helps you identify the root causes of disconnection, shift unhealthy patterns, and learn to communicate with clarity and compassion—so you can feel secure, supported, and seen in your relationship.
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In-Person Couples Intensives
Spend a full day at my office in Orlando, Florida and get the deep, focused support your relationship needs. These intensives are designed to help you break through stuck dynamics, reconnect emotionally, and leave with a practical path forward.
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The Mid-Life Masterclass
This group experience is for women ready to rewrite the rules. In this 12-week program, we’ll explore relationships, identity, and personal power—so you can stop overfunctioning and start living a life that actually feels like yours.
Listen to Insights
from the Couch
A Podcast Exploring Mental Health at Midlife
Join me and my fellow co-host, therapist, and friend, Laura Bowman, as we discuss the unique challenges women face at this pivotal stage of life.
From relationships and intimacy, to career transitions, mental and physical health, and finding purpose—our podcast brings the best of what we know as therapists and as women who are navigating the same midlife journey alongside you.
How to Bring Up a Tough Conversation with Your Partner
Download the three game-changing strategies for smoother, more successful communication.
Discover My Blog Explicit
Whether you’re struggling with an avoidant partner, longing to feel valued, or healing from a breakup, this blog goes beyond surface-level advice and gives you the tools to shift your perspective, break old patterns, and build the kind of connection you’ve always craved.